Eric Allen Bell wrote a great post I’d love to share with you. Be a Winner make sure these isn’t your traits.
Number 1 – They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.
Yup. They see problems in every opportunity. They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair. They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions. Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning from their mistakes. They never seem to move forward because they’re always afraid to come out of their comfort zones.
Number 2 – They Act Before They Think.
They move based on instinct or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once without any second thought. Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain. Then they spend & spend again until nothing’s left. They don’t think about the future. What they’re after is the pleasure they will experience at present. They don’t think about the consequences. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality, and the like are included in this group.
Number 3 – They Talk Much More Than They Listen
They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying. Oftentimes they are not aware that what they’re saying is not sensible anymore. When other people advise them, they close their ears because they’re too proud to admit their mistakes. In their mind they’re always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior.
Number 4 – They Give Up Easily
Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success. Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure. At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors. Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don’t have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.
Number 5 – They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level
Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down. They could have asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they’re too proud. They don’t want to ask advise. Moreover, they’re too negative to accomplish anything.
Number 6 – They Waste Their Time
They don’t know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives. It’s perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.
Number 7 – They Take the Easy Way Out
If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end.
They don’t want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life. What these people don’t know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed. If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off. Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.
Source: Eric Bell
Kind of ironic that this is a negative post. I find if I tend to my own backyard, I don’t have time to compare myself to, judge or criticize others. You appear to have an axe to grind with particular people in your life. An effective person would address them directly not passive aggressively. If after addressing these people directly, you still aren’t satisfied with these people, move on, you will be doing them and yourself a favor. You can’t control or change other people. You can control and change yourself.
This article is not from Eric Allen Bell. The correct author is Michael Lee. http://www.mindpowernews.com/7DestructiveHabits.htm
Mary its copied from another site. Personally I find it accurate and funny.
No axe grind.
Mary its copied from another site. Personally I find it accurate and funny.
No axe grind.
Yes you right! Already read it at a few days ago!
Well I tend to agree with most of it – apart from 2) Acting on impulse can be a virtue at times and putting “unsafe” sex and criminality into the same category is just plain stupid. Also disagree with 6) Staring up a blank wall can be at times the most creative period….
Well I tend to agree with most of it – apart from 2) Acting on impulse can be a virtue at times and putting “unsafe” sex and criminality into the same category is just plain stupid. Also disagree with 6) Staring up a blank wall can be at times the most creative period….
All good stuff but please check the difference between advise and advice. Thanks
What can we do about someone like this? Help and give them another chance or simple fire or shut them down?
Hey Chris. I totally agree with you on all points and admit to having been guilty of most of them from time to time as I’m sure everyone has. What sets the successful people apart though is their ability to recognize and change – recognize the problem and change your approach until it’s no longer an issue.
Number 6 is basically 90% of the American public.
WOW! Those are points are incredibly accurate – and I’m not sure if I’ve ever seen them spelled out so clearly. What’s interesting some of these “stuck” points people could actually turn around in their head…yet some of the others are the exactl ones that keep them stuck! For example – negetiveness (#1) can be turned around, it can be worked on and overcome – but if your all talk, don’t listen and too “proud” (#’s 3 & 5) to hear new perspectives then where is there to go fro there? Nowhere. Thanks for sharing this wonderful blog – I not only agree, but I love how clear it is regarding these points / traits.
Excellent list of things to avoid in life! This whole mindset, and as you listed it hear are common place point by point in those who are really going nowhere fast in life! Great post! Thanks for sharing!
Wow – I’m pretty sure you are hanging out in my house. Between me, my husband and our three kids, I think we nailed each one of these with perfection. Despite teh fact that I try to live by the idea of focusing on the good, positive and the uplifting, it seems we have a long ways to go.
Well said. I love it that the Number 1 in the list is where it is. I can’t see how one can effectively fix the others in the list without fixing Number 1 first.
Good list. I’m not sure number 7 is totally valid under scrutiny, as
sometimes the narrower path may offer more rewards, but the payoff is
not worth it to the traveler. This may simply speak more to values than
competency.
However, if they are truly lazy and and don’t feel like they will put in
any effort at all, they will find that effort is nearly inescapable,
and that the old saying “a stitch in time saves nine”. If they don’t
realize and learn from it… incompetent!
This is a great list highlighting some traits of some people with MENTAL ILLNESS. How about a little compassion for those folks?
I dont think people with these HABITS qualify with a mental illness. We’re all likely guilty of these habits from time to time.
A rare and interesting post. People prefer to write about positive things so there is a scarcity of articles like this which makes it even more interesting.
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Love this. I’ve been guilty of all of these at some time or other but, as Lori Anne says, success is having the courage to confront our own incompetence and turn it into competence (whilst trying not to bitch about it in the process).
So what is the antidote for these maladies?
Sounds about right.
I think number 7 is 99% of Americans these days. After all it is easier to go to a protest or demonstration than to apply yourself and work your way into the 1%.
These are awesome ips Chris. I find most of them really funny but I’m sure they can help.thanks a lot
The author of this article IS INCOMPETENT. Discussed everything BUT incompetence, what it is, and how to deal with people that have no clue about what the hell they’re doing.
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Oh yes, I heard that people with Social Anxiety are QUITE the confidant types.:P
What sets people apart is NOT incompetence, it’s personal ambition. All your examples read way too much like judgement statements instead of comprehensive examples. You need to go way deeper and site more proof and details in order for your point to ring true. Just because someone doesn’t care about succeeding, doesn’t make them incompetent. Different strokes for different folks dude.
I think the title should be 7 habits of unsuccessful people.This has nothing to with incompetence!I agree with you Michele.Incompetence is not being able to complete even the most simple tasks.
Agreed. That title would make a lot more sense.
“work your way into the 1%”
Oh Lord.
point no. 5 is BS for a lot of people. Yes they do envy ‘competent’ people, but they do not spread rumours as such unless it is in their nature.