The Chris Voss Show Podcast – Why You Feel the Way You Do: Understand and Heal the Source of Stressful Emotions by Reneau Z. Peurifoy M.A.

Why You Feel the Way You Do: Understand and Heal the Source of Stressful Emotions by Reneau Z. Peurifoy M.A.

It was long ago that Roman poet Catullus (84-54BC) said, “We hate and we love, can one tell me why?” Have you ever wondered . . . Why You Feel the Way You Do?
Now is the time for you to discover what’s hiding behind the negative emotions, unhealthy response patterns and distorted thinking that keeps many from living a happier and more fulfilling life. Why You Feel the Way You Do takes you on a journey beyond your personality, your DNA, and your family upbringing, to pinpoint critical issues and self-destructive thought patterns that influence your well-being, followed by practical tools for managing negative emotions in a healthier way.

• Learn about the emotional circuits we share with our pets.
• Discover ways to quiet destructive emotional triggers.
• Understand the role of guilt/shame and ways to manage them.
• Reduce the negative effects of social media and devices.
• Identify common destructive response patterns and learn how to change them.
. . . plus much more!

In Why You Feel the Way You Do, author Reneau Z. Peurifoy helps you emerge from those nagging, unhealthy emotional barriers, while providing practical ways to experience more joy in your daily life. Moving beyond emotional problems, Peurifoy also explores what positive psychology has recently learned about the three most important emotional factors that impact personal happiness.

Show Notes

About The Guest(s):

Renaud Purifoy is an internationally known author, therapist, and teacher with over four decades of experience. He has written books that have been translated into multiple languages and has appeared on numerous radio and television programs. Renaud has been invited to speak at 11 national conferences for the Anxiety Disorders Association of America.


Renaud Purifoy joins Chris Voss on The Chris Voss Show to discuss his latest book, “Why You Feel the Way You Do: Understand and Heal the Source of Stressful Emotions.” Renaud takes listeners on a journey through the seven basic emotions that humans share with animals and explains how these emotions develop into triggers. He also explores the negative and positive core response patterns we have and shares three key factors that contribute to happiness. Renaud provides practical activities at the end of each chapter to help readers apply the concepts in their own lives.

Key Takeaways:

Renaud explores the seven basic emotions shared by humans and animals: anger, fear, seeking, play, lust, separation anxiety, and caring.
Emotions serve as a way for the brain to index information and create associations with memories.
Renaud discusses the importance of desensitization to reduce the negative effects of triggers and shares practical strategies for managing anxiety.
Social media can have negative effects on mental health, and it’s important to set boundaries and limit screen time.
Building strong relationships and connections with others is a key factor in happiness and overall well-being.


“The brain is always making associations, and emotions are the way that your brain indexes information.” – Renaud Purifoy
“Desensitization is the process of gradually exposing yourself to triggers and managing anxiety to reduce their negative effects.” – Renaud Purifoy
“People are starved for real relationships, and that’s why they’re so susceptible to the addictive nature of social media.” – Renaud Purifoy